Gay Romances – The New Black. 2



Gay Romances: The New Black.

Some might ask what right / knowledge / insight do I really have about being a gay man falling in love. I mean, let’s face it: I’m not gay and I don’t have a penis ( though that last one might be fun for a day). But, using that logic, J.K. Rowling isn’t a wizard, yet look what she did. Or maybe she is. Who knows.

So while I don’t have firsthand knowledge about gay romance, I use what I know about traditional male / female romances and channel that into my gay romances. That seems to go against everything the genre represents, but let me explain. It makes sense; I promise.


Whether they’re childhood friends (ahhh Shane and Dylan – and if you don’t know who they are, you should totally pick up Let Love Live), or meeting for the first time in their late twenties, like Dax and Beck from On Solid Ground, the first encounter goes much like any other meeting. There’s an attraction, whether the men want to acknowledge it or not in an entirely different story. There definitely has to be some banter. For me, I don’t particularly enjoy the jerk character – you know, the bad boy / rebel who treats the heroine like dirt, yet she falls completely and irreversibly in love with him. So for me, the joking around with each other is much more fun to write. It’s through these scenes that the reader really gets a feel for who the characters are. You see them as real people, flaws and all.


This may be a shock, but I don’t have any intimate knowledge about gay sex (except for what I’ve seen in porn, and porn is always realistic, right?). For me, other than where “parts” go, the sexy scenes are very heterosexually based. That sounds odd to say that my gay sex scenes aren’t gay, but that’s what makes them a little more realistic – I think, anyway. I don’t fall into stereotypes, or archetypes, or any kind of type. What I try my best to embrace is the physical need of the two characters. And for me, that’s the best part of M/m stories. Often, society present this image that men are brutish, unfeeling, stoic robots who are incapable of being vulnerable. Or if they are vulnerable, then they’re weak and broken, somehow. What I love about M/f love stories is that we get to see that human / softer side of our man. He opens up and lets his emotions be known. That’s where gay romances kick ass. You get not one, but TWO men opening up, becoming vulnerable, and confessing their feelings. How awesome is that?


Seems pretty self-explanatory and while I’d love to say that we live in a society where being gay is much more widely accepted than it used to be, that’s not always the case. I love creating loving, welcoming, and open-minded friends and family to surround my guys. This step makes the happily ever after so much more enjoyable because they have a great support system to share it with. And it’s not all about the sex, after all. Sure, we’d love it to be, but there has to be room for the real life stuff. That’s when characters become human, when they become “people” who stay with us long after the words “the end.” We want to think about what they’re doing now, or where their lives have gone. That’s incredibly difficult to do if you’ve only ever read about them being in bed. Creating that happily ever after is so much sweeter when they’ve fought for it.

There are two kinds of readers out there: those who have read gay romances and those who haven’t. If you’re in the latter category, you might want to consider picking one up. You might be somewhat surprised at how “normal” gay can be.

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